As I settle down to do research this weekend in my quest to figure out whether I want to keep this baby or not, I have realized if I do keep it, I have absolutely no way of being financially provided for during the time I would have to take off to raise the child.
This is shit! I read that if you work for a company with 50+ employees and have been there for more than 12 months (neither of which I qualify for), they have to give you maternity leave, but (shouldn’t have expected anything less of America..) it is UNPAID.
The US is one of only 3 countries in the whole world to not have legally mandated paid maternity leave!!! WHAT THE FUCK?
I’m sorry but seriously, how many women are actually FORCED to abort an unplanned pregnancy because they won’t actually be financially able to look after the child?? I really would like to see some studies on this.
Coming from Europe…This is bullshit.
A) A woman might accidentally get pregnant but might want to keep the child. Economic incentives would definitely help in preserving that life.
B) Lots of people work for small companies. Or have just started a new job. How the fuck are they not even entitled to any leave?
C) Isn’t it really bad for a child’s development to not have a parent around in the first months of its life? I wonder if anyone has done studies on the negative effects..Can’t be good for a mom to go straight back to work and leave a newborn with a stranger??
D) What about EQUALITY? How is this country meant to promote equality between men and women if women DISPROPORTIONATELY suffer from economic and career hardship simply by choosing to continue with a pregnancy?
I really feel like I have no choice but to abort because I don’t wanna not work, or more like, I don’t want to not have an INCOME. As it stands, if I continue with this, I will have absolutely no rights for any kind of assistance of any kind, and as we just went through six months of me not working when my paperwork was stuck in the immigration system, I don’t think my husband could actually support me AND another human being yet again for months on end…………………..
PLUS what about my career? My dreams? I’d be forced to take a break and once again, be punished for being a female…(First punishment was the sexual abuse I went through and endured, second was getting raped…And on it goes..)
I’m really upset about this whole thing actually, and for someone to say women and men are equal is absolute bullshit, especially in America. Ain’t no equality here!
My husband wants the baby still, but he does understand that we should terminate, move to Europe (London..anywhere), settle down and then have a baby where the society understands that women should not be financially penalized for having a child.
A day to go…Termination booked for Monday, still undecided, but it just seems too difficult to have a baby now.
Also, being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, my viewpoint is different on these matters, and as I already have emotional difficulties it just could not work..
Anyway, should try sleep. I must decide tomorrow!!
Night night. Sorry for venting. I’m just really angry and upset.